Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Write or Die Wednesdays: The Wrathful Path


Welcome to Write or Die Wednesdays: A Writer's Link-Up! We are Vashelle and Mia inviting you to partake in some creative writing with us each week.

                           

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Last week's link-up had us all sharing what our typical day is like. It was so much fun getting to know each other in that way! Our lives are so full that it is any wonder we have time for blogging too, but good thing we make the time! Otherwise, how would we all know one another? :)

Today's prompt has us examining our vices:




We can't wait to see what everyone writes about this one! Happy writing!!

Don't forget, you have five days to link-up! If you have not prepared a post for today, feel free to join us tomorrow or in a few days. We'd love to see what you come up with!

P.S. Have you joined the Write or Die Book Club yet? It's a quarterly book club focused on books about writing, creativity, inspiration, etc. We hope you'll join us! We begin reading Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott today! Click on the image below to join :)

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My first reaction was to think, "I'm not guilty of any of these!!" But the truth is, I'm sure I've been guilty of all of the 7 deadly sins at some point in my life.

But which of them am I most guilty?


WRATH.

I don't like to think of myself as an angry person. And I think that most people who know me wouldn't have chosen wrath for me. But my smile and easygoing nature and humor hide a lot.

It's an old, deep-seated anger, really. One that I should have let go of a long time ago, but I just can't. It permeates my bones, it's a part of my DNA. There are days when I don't think about it. Days when I feel like I can finally put it behind me. But it always comes back. My own little boomerang of fury.

I don't always necessarily think that anger is a bad thing. Anger can fuel you. Anger can bring about change. Anger has shown me who I do not want to be. And who I do. How I want to live my life and treat others.

But there is a point when wrath crosses the line into something toxic. I don't feel like I have crossed that line. I hope I never do. But there are days when it becomes a burden.

"Anger is just anger. It isn't good. It isn't bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It's like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice." -Jim Butcher

I choose to not let it destroy me, but to serve as a reminder. Of things that have been and things that will be.


   

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Monday, March 30, 2015

What does writer's block feel like?



If you love writing and/or blogging, I'm willing to bet a great deal of Monopoly money that you've faced writer's block at least once in your life. You sit there staring at a blank page in your journal, or a blank screen on your computer, and nothing happens. Nothing. 

You rack your brain trying to think of something, anything, to say. Sometimes an idea will come to you, and you'll think, YES, FINALLY, and then just as quickly as it appeared, it will float away from your grasp. It's super irritating. 

And as I sit here trying to figure out what to write about, I find myself thinking about what writer's block actually feels like. Because it can be hard to describe it properly. Yes, it means that you want to write something, but can't think of anything to write about. But how does it feel to be in the throes of writer-block-itis? Well, glad you asked, trusty reader. 

Writer's block feels like:

* Trying to complete a word search puzzle but your eyes just can't focus on any particular word or make sense of what you're looking at. 

* Trying to find a needle in a haystack.

* Mental constipation.

* Having a wedgie and you're surrounded by people and unable to remove said wedgie from your hind parts. 

* When your snack gets stuck in the vending machine. FOR. THE. LOVE. Just come out already! 

* Sitting at the DMV for hours, waiting for your number to be called. 

* Having 10,000 spoons, when all you need is a knife. Bahaha, OK, I'll stop. 

You catch my drift, right? It's frustrating. But at least my writer's block inspired me to write a post about writer's block. So, that's something, right? In the words of Charles Bukowski:

"Writing about writer's block is better than not writing at all." 

What are your tips for getting past writer's block? 

P.S. Please join us on Wednesday for the Write or Die writer's link up. Our prompt is below. Hope to see you there and happy writing!





Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Write or Die Wednesdays: Make it Rhyme If You Have Time


Welcome to Write or Die Wednesdays: A Writer's Link-Up! We are Vashelle and Mia inviting you to partake in some creative writing with us each week.

                           

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Last week's link-up asked us to flex our creative writing muscles a bit and create a short story or poem. There were some really amazing posts - some gave me the heebie-jeebies, some tugged at the heartstrings. Click here to see the posts from last week!

This week's prompt is as follows:

We want to know more about YOU. Come share what your typical day is like. Use any format you wish! 





Don't forget, you have a week to link up! If you have not prepared a post for today, feel free to join us tomorrow or in a few days. We'd love to see what you come up with!

P.S. Have you joined the Write or Die Book Club yet? It's a quarterly book club focused on books about writing, creativity, inspiration, and more! We hope you'll join us! Click on the photo below to cast your vote for our first book. We'll begin reading on April 1st.

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*****



Did anybody else just say to themselves: "Like sand through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives"? No? *crickets*

I wish I could tell you that my typical day was super exciting. Filled with champagne, shopping sprees, and being personally serenaded by Adam Levine. But alas, I cannot tell a lie.

Here's my uber boring day, relayed as a poem. Because rhyming.

5:00am: Alarm goes ring, ring, ring. "FML!" is what I'm thinking. Again and again I hit the snooze, and so begins my morning blues.

6:00am: I'm all dressed, but I'm still stressed. Into my boys' rooms I silently creep, where they are both still sound asleep. Wake up, it's time to go! "Oh Mommy, I don't want to. No, no, no!"

6:40am: The time has come to begin my commute. I pop in a CD by Eric Church - HOT dang, that man is cute!

7:30am(~ish): I arrive at work, my computer goes on. I give a deep sigh and stifle a yawn.



8:00am: It's time to eat my breakfast, if I remember to bring it. But you can bet your booty that I'll have coffee - I never forget to drink it.



11:00am: It's time for lunch. I like to eat early, I like it a bunch. I check out my blog planner while I eat. I forgot to write a post for tomorrow - holy sheet!



4:00pm: It's finally time to leave for the day. Say it with me now, HIP HIP HOORAY! I get in my car and begin my homeward drive. Mark off another day of work that I survived.

5:00pm: I pick up the boys and we go home to eat. After that, Dom has to do homework - he thinks it's SO neat.



6:30pm: We settle down in the living room and turn on the tv. "I want to watch Octonauts!" says Will, my baby.





8:30pm: The house is quiet and I use my time to write or read without fail. I may even send to my friends some colorful mail.


10:30pm: I talk on the phone with my hubby. He's hard at work, but has time to tell me he loves me. I know I should sleep, but slumber eludes me. So I turn on the tv and watch whatever is on - I'm not choosy.

12:30am: I suppose the time has come for me to say good night. My alarm will go off again soon - that beastly piece of shite.

If you're still awake after reading that post, give the comments section a shout. This concludes my "day in the life" - I'm over and out!



   

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Monday, March 23, 2015

Read All About It: The Paris Wife by Paula McLain



This book evoked a lot of different emotions in me. My main reaction was: Ernest Hemingway be cray cray. 

But first, here's the synopsis from Goodreads



"Chicago, 1920: Hadley Richardson is a quiet twenty-eight-year-old who has all but given up on love and happiness—until she meets Ernest Hemingway and her life changes forever. Following a whirlwind courtship and wedding, the pair set sail for Paris, where they become the golden couple in a lively and volatile group—the fabled “Lost Generation”—that includes Gertrude Stein, Ezra Pound, and F. Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald. 
Though deeply in love, the Hemingways are ill-prepared for the hard-drinking and fast-living life of Jazz Age Paris, which hardly values traditional notions of family and monogamy. Surrounded by beautiful women and competing egos, Ernest struggles to find the voice that will earn him a place in history, pouring all the richness and intensity of his life with Hadley and their circle of friends into the novel that will become The Sun Also Rises. Hadley, meanwhile, strives to hold on to her sense of self as the demands of life with Ernest grow costly and her roles as wife, friend, and muse become more challenging. Despite their extraordinary bond, they eventually find themselves facing the ultimate crisis of their marriage—a deception that will lead to the unraveling of everything they’ve fought so hard for. 
A heartbreaking portrayal of love and torn loyalty, The Paris Wife is all the more poignant because we know that, in the end, Hemingway wrote that he would rather have died than fallen in love with anyone but Hadley."

What I Liked:

* This was a historical fiction, so while the people in the book were real, and some of the events did take place, the author did fictionalize some parts of Hadley and Ernest's relationship. But I did enjoy seeing a more vulnerable portrayal of Hemingway. Most people tend to think of him as a jerk, or a womanizer, or an alcoholic. And while he may very well have been those things, the author breathes sensitivity and emotion into him. You can feel his complexity and his conflicted nature come through very clearly. 

* I liked reading about Hemingway's writing process and how focused and dedicated he was when he was writing a book. I can relate, though, not to the same degree. 

* I liked that Hadley was willing to try and keep her marriage together even though it was most definitely falling apart. You could tell that even though he hurt her very deeply, she still loved him and still held out hope that their marriage could be repaired. I admired that about her - to a point. 

* While I don't condone bullfighting, I did enjoy the imagery that the author used to paint the scenes for us when Hadley and Ernest were in Spain. I can understand why bullfighting appealed to Hemingway - the machismo, the blood, the cheering crowd. 

What I Didn't Like:

* OK, so I know I said that I admired Hadley for trying to keep her marriage together. Well, that's true. BUT there comes a point when you need to cut your losses and move on. Ernest was not faithful to her towards the end of their marriage. Not only that, but his mistress was one of his wife's "friends". And the mistress at one point climbs into bed with them and Hadley pretends to be asleep (?!?!?!?!!?). I'm sorry, but I would have certainly been arrested in that situation because there's no way I would let that happen while I'm in the freaking room. I really wished Hadley would have had enough of a backbone to say - enough is enough! And maybe punched the woman in the face a few times. 

* Ernest and his mistress actually proposed to Hadley that they all move to the States together and live in the same house, one big happy family. Hadley FINALLY told him to go fly a kite. Too late, though, in my opinion. 

* Hadley and Ernest had a son together. But throughout most of the book, they are traipsing all over Europe and the son is pawned off on various housekeepers, nannies, and friends. That really bothered me. Hadley really wanted to have a child and kept saying how important he was to her, and then she'd leave him for months at a time to go sit in cafes and listen to Ernest talking to other authors. Really? 

Favorite Quotes:

* "Not everyone out in a storm wants to be saved."

* "But in the end, fighting for a love that was already gone felt like trying to live in the ruins of a lost city."

* "Men hear what they like and invent the rest."  [Amen. ;)]


My Rating:

* 4 out of 5 stars


Have you read The Paris Wife? If so, share your thoughts! Or if not, what are you reading now? I want to hear all about it!


P.S. This week's prompt for Write or Die Wednesdays is: A Day in the Life. Come share with us what your typical day is like. Use any format you wish for your post. Happy writing! 



Sunday, March 22, 2015

Stop Trying to Make Fetch Happen {Or Think Twice Before Creating New Slang}

Image courtesy of quickmeme.com 

So, the other day I was having a conversation with one of my friends who doesn't blog about my blogging friends. And it came to my attention that there just isn't a good word to describe your blogging friends. No word or phrase that just rolls off the tongue. 

For example, people may say: blogging BFFs, bloggy buddies, blog friends, bloggy pals, etc. Sure, it gets the point across, but it's just not as concise as I would like. 

It got me thinking. What's another word that I could use for friend? Aside from the obvious, of course. Maybe I could create my own word and set the blog friend world on FIRE. OK, maybe not. 

Here are some of my fails: 
  • Chum? Blog chums. Blums. Ugh, next!
  • Confidante? Blog confidante. Blogfidantes. As if!
  • Amigo? Blog amigos. Blamigos. Looks kind of like "flamingos." Next! 
  • Sister? Blog sisters. Blisters. Oh, it just gets better and better. 


Maybe I should just keep it simple: 
  • Friend. Blog friends. Blends. How about no. 
  • Buddy. Blog buddies. Bluddies.  .......
  • Pal. Blog pals. Blals. Makes no sense. 


Wait, wait, wait! I've got it! 
  • Homie. Blog homies. Blo.....              

FML, I GIVE UP. 


Help a girl out. What do you call your blog friends???? 


P.S. This week's prompt for Write or Die Wednesdays is: A Day in the Life. We want to know more about YOU. Come share what your typical day is like. Use any format you wish. Happy writing!! 







Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Write or Die Wednesdays: The Window of Opportunity


Welcome to Write or Die Wednesdays: A Writer's Link-Up! We are Vashelle and Mia inviting you to partake in some creative writing with us each week.


                           

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Last week's link-up was about something we all hold dear: music! The way certain songs transport us to past times, places and feelings is something we all had in common. If you missed the linkup, feel free to check out the posts here!

This week's prompt is as follows:

Write a short story or poem using this image as inspiration!


Don't forget, you have five days to link-up! If you have not prepared a post for today, feel free to join us tomorrow or in a few days. We'd love to see what you come up with!

P.S. Have you joined the Write or Die Book Club yet? It's a quarterly book club focused on books about writing, creativity, inspiration, and more! We hope you'll join us! Click on the photo below to cast your vote for our first book. We'll begin reading on April 1st.

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Happy writing!!!


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The light shines through
But it fails to warm
My thoughts are suffocating
I look out at the world with equal parts hope and despair
Time is passing as time always does
Without regard for me at all
My misery is a constant companion
I fear that success will never find me
My dreams remain elusive
What can I accomplish
When will it happen
Patience is the answer they always say
But waiting is futile
I want to conquer
I want to flourish
I want to grow
The light is my resolve
The rays fuel my determination
The window of opportunity is before me
I will open it and welcome the sunlight

*This is an original poem written by me. Please do not copy or distribute without my permission. Thank you. 




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Monday, March 16, 2015

Shoe Cares?



I've never been a shoe girl. Ever. Not that I don't appreciate a nice-looking pair of shoes, it's just that I'd rather spend my money on books or doing fun stuff with my family or going out to dinner with my honey. 

I don't really understand those ladies who have dozens upon dozens of shoes in their closets. Do you ever really wear them all? Don't your feet hurt? I'm all about comfort. Most of my shoes are neutrals - browns, blacks, grays - because they go with everything and I don't have to waste precious time in the mornings figuring out which pair to wear. 

I'm also all about comfort. My giant clown feet need their room to breathe. I can't stuff my feet into those 3 inch stilettos. It'd be like one of the step-sisters from Cinderella trying to cram her foot into the glass slipper. Ain't gonna happen. 

Now, I will admit that I have been suckered in by a few cute pairs of leopard print shoes. I have 2 pairs of flats and a pair of boots in leopard print. But other than that, I'm a pretty boring shoe person. They are just not that high up on my list of priorities. 

What about you? Are you a shoe guru? 

*Linking up with Dean and Courtney for #TWSS


P.S. Don't forget to join Vashelle and me for Write or Die Wednesdays. The prompt this week is to write a short story or poem using the photo below. Put your creative writing caps on! Hope you join us! 



P.P.S. Thank you again to the lovely blogger who nominated me for Most Inspirational Blog. You are a kind soul whoever you are and I'll give you a big ol' smooch. I made it to the final round of voting and would appreciate your vote if you've ever felt inspired by my blog. There are also a bunch of other categories - go check them out and vote for your favorites! 

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