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The prompt for the next two weeks is: What makes you uncomfortable? Happy writing!
"So, tell me about yourself."
OMG. I just broke out into invisible hives just reading that phrase. I really hate talking about myself. I never know what to say. I'm always bracing myself for the silent judgment that I assume is there as I'm talking and then I get self-conscious. And then I stop talking. And the awkward silence begins. Haha.
When someone asks me to tell them about more about me - my stomach gets tied up in knots. They could be the nicest person ever, but there will still be that part of me in the back of my mind that thinks they think I'm an idiot. It's weird. I also just truly don't know what to say. Do I tell them about my job (snooze)? What I do in my spare time (ha!)? I'm just too much into my head.
I think I have a tendency to also downplay my accomplishments so that I don't come across as a braggart. And I also downplay my hobbies and passions because I hate the questions that inevitably follow: "Blogging? What is that? Does anybody even read it? Writer? Oh, so you're one of 'those' people who is working on a book. Is it ever going to be finished? You read? Ew, I don't read books, just tell me when the movie comes out."
"I am not good at small talk. I will hide in a cupboard to avoid chitty-chat." Caitlin Moran
I don't really know why I'm this way. Maybe it's my introversion coming through. I hate small talk and find that most people don't really care about the answer anyways. You know those people - they'll ask how you are, or how your weekend was, and when you start to answer you realize that they aren't even paying attention to you anymore. So I generally just say, "Fine" and keep it moving.
Being averse to small talk and talking about myself has a pro and con.
The con: It makes me a hard person to get to know. I think most people feel like I'm keeping them at arm's length or I'm standoffish (aka bitchy). I'm sure it feels like pulling teeth when people ask me questions sometimes. Heck, my husband almost didn't talk to me because he thought I was stuck up. And I was over there totally crushing on him. Ha!
The pro: I'm a great listener. Fact: When you don't really talk much, it's very easy to listen to others. I like being a sounding board for people. I've found that most people really appreciate having someone who will let them vent. People are always telling me about their problems and I always patiently listen because I do truly care, and I also want them to know that I'm there for them.
What's funny, though, is that after people get to know me, I don't stop talking. I'm usually goofing off and joking around with them. I love to make people laugh!
So, I guess the moral of this story is, if there's someone in your life - a friend, a family member, a coworker - who doesn't say much, don't immediately write them off. Give them a chance to feel comfortable around you. Keep talking to them - you never know, they may surprise you. :)
What makes YOU uncomfortable?
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