Sunday, April 19, 2015

Chasing My Dreams - Feeling Discouraged



We've all heard it before, right? 

"If you can dream it, you can do it." 

"All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them." 

"If you never chase your dreams, you will never catch them."

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams."

And so on. These statements are intended to motivate you. To tell you to stay strong and not to give up. And I think that's wonderful. Sometimes we all need reminders that the road to achieving your dreams can be bumpy, but we need to stay the course. 

But lately, those statements haven't been able to penetrate my "funk." What do you do when the road to achieving your dreams seems impossible to travel? What do you do when you feel discouraged? When you feel like you'll never get there? 

At what point do you put your happiness, self-satisfaction, and mental health over financial and job security? Does being an adult mean that you should just give up on what you want to do? It just seems depressing. 

I don't have any answers for you. I just wanted to stop by and share what's on my heart and also why I haven't been posting much. Haven't felt happy and creative lately. But I wanted to say to anyone else out there who is in the same boat - I know how you feel. And it sucks. But I'm here for you. Hit me up if you want to commiserate. 



P.S. The prompt for this week's Write or Die Wednesdays writer's link up is the photo below. Hope you join us beginning on the 22nd. Also, please note that going forward, Write or Die Wednesdays will become a biweekly link up. So you have 2 weeks to join us. Hope to see you there!  Happy writing. 



36 comments:

  1. I have been feeling the same way...it's hard to not get into funks. I am constantly feeling discouraged about the path that some things in my life are taking. I guess at some point you just have to let it be. Hugs dear sweet friend!

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  2. I totally know how you feel - and I think one of the most important things to remember is that it's perfectly natural to have moments of self-doubt and to have those "funk" days/weeks/months or even years where you feel a little lost. Having those moments doesn't mean that you're incapable of chasing your dreams or that you'll never get there; it just means that you're having a little trouble making sense of them right now.

    When I get in a funk, I find the thing that helps me most is stopping trying so hard to get out of the funk, and just letting the funk be. Easier said than done, I know. I once went through a 2.5 year creative funk and if I knew then what I know now, I would totally go back in time and tell myself to stop being so dang hard on myself, to stop trying so hard and to stop fearing that I'd never get out of the funk.


    Storms don't last forever, hang in there beautiful! <3

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  3. I always have trouble chasing my dreams...mainly because my dreams don't involve things that would make a lot of money, but I have a ton o student loans so I have to have a job that pays well. Sigh.

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  4. Girl, we need to talk. I spent DECADES of my life laboring joylessly in bad jobs to try to achieve my career goal. It was rough. There were years when I had no happiness in my life. I learned lessons from that which are too big to leave in a comment. I'll say simply that I feel your pain; I sympathize with your plight; and I hope you find a way to joy. Good luck.

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  5. I can completely relate to this. It's a constant struggle between nurturing my mental health and meeting the standards I feel like I should be meeting. Just know that you're not alone! Keep on keeping on, and know that some days it will all feel easy!

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  6. I can definitely relate! Definitely!! Going through the exact same dilemma currently! Unfortunately, I don't have any answers either. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take each day as they come. But keep those dreams, too. I think we owe it to ourselves to do that. Even though it is FAR from easy. I'm here if you ever want to chat!!

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  7. Oh, I wrote about this very same thing this morning. Sometimes the words fail, and as writers, we'll always be so incredibly hard on ourselves when this happens. But it's okay. It opens up opportunities to see, experience, and do things we may not otherwise be able and hopefully return to our notebooks (and computers) with renewed enthusiasm and inspiration.

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  8. I've been feeling a little down lately too and have noticed that I've had a much harder time thinking about dreams coming true as well. I hope you start to feel better soon! :)

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  9. That's it... this calls for a phone call. We're chatting; I'm failing as a Chase Your Dreams Partner.
    XOXO

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  10. Ugh I've just been trying to get through life, let alone accomplish my dreams. Sometimes I feel like life doesn't really leave much opportunity to chase dreams. I have to work my butt off to make money to pay bills and by the end of it I'm too tired for dream chasing. It makes me sad.

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  11. I had a business a while ago that was almost successful for a few years. It probably wasn't the best way to spend that time financially, but I mostly enjoyed it, learned a lot and I don't feel like it was a waste. This is a tough one though. Personally I think the time to give up a dream is when you catch yourself looking for excuses to stop, because that's when your heart isn't in it any more. But that could just be me. It could just be time to step back and try tackling it from a different angle.

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  12. Oh sweet girl! I truly know how you feel and have felt like that lately and thought perhaps I should just "get a job." There are times in our lives when we need to rest for awhile and reassess where we are. Perhaps that what you need right now. It doesn't mean you aren't going after your dreams, it just means you are resting. After all, no journey goes without stopping and resting. Hugs and love! Thinking of you! XOXO

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  13. little luxury listApril 21, 2015 at 8:21 AM

    I totally get it. Sure it's great to be positive and I think we would all rather feel positive and optimistic. But reality is a close neighbor of pessimism. A balance is needed when chasing your dreams. You have to be somewhat realistic (e.g. can you really be a model if you are 5 feet tall?) and have a solid support network that actually gets through to you. That being said, I am going for a career switch which is difficult, but hoping to pursue something for which I have more passion. We'll see how it goes ;)
    Hi from the Authentic blogger group and have a lovely week!

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  14. The feeling of discouragement SUCKS. A thought that crosses my mind daily. I still struggle to put the pieces of my journey and where I want to go. Something I have decided to try to do is work to for financial security and volunteer/freelance with what I want to do - build experience around it for future goals. Never let go of your dreams - they don't necessarily have to bring you security right now. What are your dreams?

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  15. I was in this funk, so I took a pretty drastic step - I moved into a tiny room in a shared house so that by the end of this year I will have the financial option to quit my job and travel - or look for a job I love more - or anything. I haven't decided exactly which dream to chase yet, but the point is that I will have options. It's not without sacrifice, but I decided that (for me) a happy life is far preferable to a comfy one!

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  16. Definitely was in FunkyTown and then my Hawaii holiday helped. I feel like my blogging break has been really good for me. In fact, I'm still in Hawaii, but I wanted to catch up on my fav blogs and I'm glad I saw this from you! Take a break....sometimes we want to push harder b/c that's what we think we should do and sometimes we should, but from my own xp, I'm liking the distance and the fresh perspective. Hope this helps. xxoo

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  17. That's excellent advice, Anastasia. I need to just take a step back and breathe! Thanks, lovely.

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  18. So true, Claire. I try really hard to remind myself that having a negative outlook/attitude is just going to further my "funk" and accomplish nothing!

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  19. Yes, I'm in the same boat, Stephanie, except it's bills instead of student loans. Le sigh.

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  20. Thank you so much for your kind words. It helps to know that other people have experienced the same thing! xo

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  21. Thank you for the support, Carissa! It helps to know that others can relate. Thanks for reading!

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  22. Thanks, Andrea. I'm sorry you're going through this, too, though. It sucks, but you're so right that we just have to push through. xo

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  23. Thank you for your insightful advice, Charlotte. I think taking a step back to breathe will be so beneficial for me. Thanks for reading!

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  24. Oh, Erica, I wished we lived closer and could meet up for coffee or dinner and just chat. I feel like we have so much in common! And it makes me so glad to hear that you are happy. You deserve it!

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  25. Thank you, Crystal, I hope you do, too. Hopefully it will pass. The sooner the better! :)

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  26. You are the BESTEST chase your dreams partner. And yes, we need to chat! We should totally quote movies and books and music to each other. :-D

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  27. I can totally relate, Krysten. There aren't enough hours in the day, nor the freedom, to pursue our dreams sometimes. It makes me sad, too.

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  28. Such great advice - to step back & come at it from a different angle. I keep obsessing over it and it's not helping one bit. Thanks for reading!

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  29. Thank you, Sheryl! I could definitely use a rest. :) Hopefully this "funk" will pass and I'll be back to my more cheerful, optimistic self. :) Thanks for reading. xo

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  30. Best wishes to you on your career switch. That is definitely something that I am aiming for as well. :) Thanks so much for reading!

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  31. Thanks so much for your advice. I'm just feeling so "blah" lately. Feeling like time is slipping away from me and I'll never end up where I want to be. My dream is to be able to write full-time. But that will never be my reality, I'm afraid, as my financial responsibilities will always require me to work. And working takes up most of my time, so I don't get to really write for fun either. Bills are stupid! :)

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  32. Thanks, Kati, it definitely helps to know that we're not alone. Strength in numbers! haha. Hope you are able to find that balance sometime in the near future. Thanks for reading! xo

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  33. I love that, Erin - that you decided to pursue happiness. Having options would be so amazing! Thanks so much for reading. xo

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  34. Thanks so much, Lani! Hope you had a wonderful trip to Hawaii. P.S., I'm reading your book right now and loving it. xo

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