Monday, March 2, 2015

Do the Right Thing



How do you know when you are doing the right thing? Is it a feeling you get in your gut? Is it when someone you care about tells you that you're doing the right thing? 

I used to struggle with this a lot. Over-thinking things, kicking my anxiety into overdrive. I would become plagued with indecision. It's hard when life doesn't come with an owner's manual. We spend a majority of our early lives being told what to do and when to do it by our families, by teachers, by bosses, etc. But when you become an adult, you are suddenly left to decide so many things that have a huge impact on your life and future. You hope that you've learned enough and have been instilled with values that will point your moral compass in the right direction. 

It took me a long time to become comfortable with my decisions. For me, it comes down to how my decisions makes me feel and how they impact my family. My two most important deciding factors. And I've found that hey, I am doing things right. My choices may not be what others would choose, but they work for me and I feel at peace. 

Some things that I'm doing right: 

Marriage
I'm not at all trying to brag or imply that my marriage is perfect. We have our ups and downs like every couple. But I know that I absolutely love this man that I married. Every day he simultaneously irritates me and makes me smile, in that way that only he knows how. And my heart aches with how amazing he is as a husband and a father. Waking up every morning knowing that I'm safe and loved - I can't ask for more than that. 

Motherhood
I don't have all the answers. There are days when I'm so stressed and exhausted that I can't see straight. There are days when I think I'm not doing enough for my boys. But I love those two little people with everything I have. And when I see how sweet they are, how loving, how incredibly goofy - I know that I don't have to be perfect or know it all. My kids are loved and they know it and that means I have to be doing something right. 

Writing
Again, I'm not trying to brag or say that I'm the best writer on the planet. I'm just saying that writing makes me so happy. I feel fulfilled. I feel like I have a creative outlet that brings me such joy. Whether it's poetry or short stories or blog posts - I can't get enough. 


What are some things that you're doing right? 


*Linking up with Dean and Courtney for #TWSS. 



P.S. Don't forget to join us on March 4th for the next Write or Die Wednesdays link up. The prompt is: Adventure. Hope to see you there! 




23 comments:

  1. It's definitely important to realize when you are doing things right. :) You are awesome!

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  2. No apologies or disclaimers needed, you are AWESOME!
    I am deeply fortunate to have you in my corner, you are right... for me. :)


    I have no doubt in my mind that you're doing the best at mothering & loving your men.
    I know for certain that you are a "bomb-ass" writer. I love your writing! I mean, hello, I keep coming back for more. :)
    Keep kickin' ass at life.
    XOXO

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  3. I like how you decided to focus on what you are doing RIGHT when so many bloggers/folks in general get bogged down by what they are doing wrong or how they should be better. This is not to say the latter isn't important, but it's refreshing to take a step back and realize you are doing more things right than you probably realize and give yourself credit for. Love this post. xxoo

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  4. This posts makes me happy! I love that you are able to say these wonderful things about yourself and your life! You show Good Growth in each post that you write!

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  5. This is awesome. What a great way to look at the good things in life. :)

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  6. This is so wonderful!!! I love your perspective and I look forward to reading your posts each week. Thank you for your support of TWSS. XO

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  7. Thanks for sharing! I tend to over-think often as well. I feel like I do things right, but then start to think more about it and question myself. I appreciate your honesty and openness :)

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  8. I love your perspective! For me, I can usually trust my gut feeling, it's never lead me astray so far! It's so wonderful to focus on the positives that you're growing from every day :) xx

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  9. Great reminder to celebrate the successes and the things that feel right! As women, we are often so fricken hard on ourselves. Thanks for the reminder today.

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  10. It's the BEST! Can't imagine my life without writing. And reading. :)

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  11. Thank you so much for your kind words, Kristi! :)

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  12. Thank you, Anastasia, for your kind words! You're awesome. xo

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  13. Thank you, Andrea! I know what you mean about questioning yourself. I have done that quite a bit myself.

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  14. Thank you so much, that means a lot, Sheryl! :)

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  15. Thank you, Lani! And yes, I feel like we all don't give ourselves enough credit at times. :)

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  16. Can you just call me every day and tell me all of these wonderful and sweet and encouraging things? I feel like this needs to happen. ;) Thank you, sweet friend. xo

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  17. Awww, YOU are awesome! :) Thanks for reading, Jen, and for always being so sweet and supportive. xo

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  18. Love this! We tend to always see more of what we are doing wrong, but we are doing so many things right! Maybe things are perfect (and we aren't suppose to be perfect), but things are right! I'm doing wifehood/motherhood right even if its not perfect!

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  19. You have my number, right? ;)
    XOXO

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  20. I love this! I love all of the things you know you're doing right, especially the first two because I feel like people are so judgmental of others (because everyone's different, one way isn't the right way for everyone!) and that can make people feel like they're not doing it right... especially in motherhood. So I always love seeing people who feel like they're doing it right, because you are! :)

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