Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Write or Die Wednesdays: State of Denial

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This week's prompt is this photo suggested by Lexie at Those Words She Wrote. Thanks, Lexie! Happy writing, everyone.


This photo brings to mind the Disney cartoon version of Alice in Wonderland. Specifically, the part where Alice is helping to paint the white roses red because the Queen of Hearts only wants red roses in her garden.

It led me to thinking about denial. [Just go with it, this is how my brain works. :)] About how people, even when faced with facts, can't or won't see the truth of a situation.

Why is that, you may ask? I think it is a coping mechanism. Or sometimes a refusal to deal with a difficult situation and hope it just all works out on its own. I'm not judging at all, because I myself have suffered from denial. For a really long time.

I think denial is sort of like the equivalent of an emotional coma - designed to protect you from facing a hard/hurtful/unwanted truth that you are not yet prepared to handle. You would think that as smart as humans are we would know that we need to face things head on. That you can only sweep so much under the rug before there's no more room left under that rug. But hey - even smart people do dumb things sometimes, right?

How do you overcome denial? For me, it reached a boiling point to where I couldn't take it anymore and finally was able to change my mindset. I realized that facing the truth was the better alternative. For other people, the "answer" may look different. It may come sooner rather than later. It may come in the form of tough love from a friend or family member.

However it happens, I just hope it happens. Because it's no way to live. And so often we're in denial about being in denial. So my advice to anyone who is going through this - break the cycle. It will be hard. It will be painful. You kick and scream and want to go full ostrich mode and bury your head in the sand again. But it's worth it. You'll come out the other side feeling like a new person!

And besides, instead of painting white roses red - isn't it just easier to go buy red roses?


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  1. Well written. Living in denial is definitely no way to live...but sometimes people have to live in that state until they are truly ready to face whatever it is they are in denial about. "instead of painting white roses red - isn't it just easier to go buy red roses?" As a seasoned woman, I can tell you that most often times what is easier isn't necessarily what is best. By taking the easier route, we could find ourselves missing out on some very unique and valuable lessons. Once again, thanks for such a wonderful prompt. Have a wonderful Wednesday!

  2. Oooh, I like how you called denial an "emotional coma". It's so true! And it definitely helps to cope with things until the imminent time comes to face it.

    I like what Mitzi had to say about the process of painting the roses red. Sometimes we have to go through that long process, to pay attention to each detail, to endure the monotonous task of watching the paint dry...all to reap the wisdom at the end.


  3. Wow, I can be the Queen of Denial! I was in it for a very long time. About a year or so ago I knew that I had to step out of denial in order to save myself. Boy and I glad I did! My life has been so much better! I'm trying to get back on the blog-wagon, so hopefully next week I can link up! xoxo *erica*

  4. Can there be two queens of denial? I lived and reigned there for a long time too. Great post, Mia.

  5. I have a hard time with denial. If I want to I would just climb under a rock and forget everything. It's bad.

  6. This post certainly got me thinking. I denied I was a writer for many years, I denied myself the freedom to speak and live my truth. For years I suffered sore stomachs and back ache, and it may sound strange but when I started to write again I healed physically. Our minds are amazing things, seek your truth.

  7. I agree with you that the one picture definitely looks like something Alice and Wonderland.

    Jessica @ Sunny Days and Starry Nights

  8. "So often we are in denial about being in denial"<< YES!
    It's hard to be the person looking in, the one watching the denial-er deny themselves of HAPPY.
    I have been on both ends.
    p.s. I love how your brain works!

  9. This does NOT sound strange to me AT ALL. The reason I blog is because I am much better when I do.
    Keep writing!!

  10. Thank you Mitzi, that's an excellent point - that what's easy isn't always best. I like that. :)

  11. Haha, emotional coma, it's name of my next story. :-P Thanks, love.

  12. Oh yes, I can relate, Erica! I was also in denial for such a long time. But it's funny how eventually you reach that breaking point and have to make a change. Glad you were able to break free! :) xo

  13. Denial is so difficult, I agree! There was many a time when I wanted to forget everything, too.

  14. Yes, I absolutely agree - our minds are amazing things. We can accomplish so much when we know ourselves. Thanks so much, Mackenzie!

  15. Aw, you are the bestest. Thanks, girl. xo


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