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This week's prompt is this photo suggested by Lexie at Those Words She Wrote. Thanks, Lexie! Happy writing, everyone.
This photo brings to mind the Disney cartoon version of Alice in Wonderland. Specifically, the part where Alice is helping to paint the white roses red because the Queen of Hearts only wants red roses in her garden.
It led me to thinking about denial. [Just go with it, this is how my brain works. :)] About how people, even when faced with facts, can't or won't see the truth of a situation.
Why is that, you may ask? I think it is a coping mechanism. Or sometimes a refusal to deal with a difficult situation and hope it just all works out on its own. I'm not judging at all, because I myself have suffered from denial. For a really long time.
I think denial is sort of like the equivalent of an emotional coma - designed to protect you from facing a hard/hurtful/unwanted truth that you are not yet prepared to handle. You would think that as smart as humans are we would know that we need to face things head on. That you can only sweep so much under the rug before there's no more room left under that rug. But hey - even smart people do dumb things sometimes, right?
How do you overcome denial? For me, it reached a boiling point to where I couldn't take it anymore and finally was able to change my mindset. I realized that facing the truth was the better alternative. For other people, the "answer" may look different. It may come sooner rather than later. It may come in the form of tough love from a friend or family member.
However it happens, I just hope it happens. Because it's no way to live. And so often we're in denial about being in denial. So my advice to anyone who is going through this - break the cycle. It will be hard. It will be painful. You kick and scream and want to go full ostrich mode and bury your head in the sand again. But it's worth it. You'll come out the other side feeling like a new person!
And besides, instead of painting white roses red - isn't it just easier to go buy red roses?
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