Saturday, February 7, 2015

Valentine's Day: Love it, Hate it, Who Cares


Whether you're single or attached, I'm sure you're aware that Valentine's Day is almost upon us. You'll probably see people posting either about how much they love their significant other & their super romantic plans, OR you'll see posts about how much people hate the holiday and think it's garbage. And then there are the people like me who just don't really care one way or the other. 

I mean, I get it - sort of. The flowers, the candy, the dinner reservations. It's sweet. But I mean, what's the point, really? To celebrate love? Shouldn't that be something we do every day? If you celebrate it, more power to you. If you don't, rock on with your bad self. Either way, love is love. It doesn't really change anything, right? 

In my case, hubby and I don't really make a big deal about it. Forget about going out to dinner - every place is a zoo. Chocolates - OK, those are great, but it's not like you can't get chocolate on any other day. Flowers are pretty, and make me smile, but I like spontaneity more than I like a calendar ordering my spouse to buy me some. 


What's important to me, and to us as a couple, is spending quality time together. I don't really care what we do, as long as I'm with him. There isn't anyone else who loves me the way he does. And looks at me the way he does. I could be covered in sweat, fresh from spin class and he still looks at me like I'm the most beautiful girl in the world and gives me that special smile of his. 

I think love is so important. And it's great that there's a holiday out there to "remind" people to show their love. But what's even greater is being with someone who doesn't need a reminder. 



*Linking up with Mrs. AOK for That's What She Said


31 comments:

  1. I completely agree with you. We don't need one commercial holiday to declare how we feel about eachother. We just make sure we have a nice night in, but frankly, it's not much different than the rest of the days of the year. :)


    xo

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  2. That's great that you know what's best for you and act accordingly. It's hard to be happy trying to keep up with what other people say.

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  3. Awe! Y'all are completely totes adorbs!
    Yes love should be celebrated in some way daily, even if it's just a small way. I'm so glad you have a great relationship with a good man who makes you feel special and loved!
    Did you know that St. Valentine was a priest who married couples in secret during a war, and when the king found out had him executed? On February 14th. So we are technically celebrating the day a dude died with candy and chocolates. Mercia.

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  4. I've never been one to really celebrate Valentine's Day. I don't think people should have to be reminded to show someone they love them. It should be an every day thing. And, on the other side, being single...it kind of sucks having a day throw in your face all about love. Luckily I have Walter, he shows me tons of love every day! ;)

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  5. I love that, Lindsay - it shouldn't be different than the rest of the days of the year, you're so right. :)

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  6. So true, trying to please others all the time & worry about what they will say is exhausting and futile! :)

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  7. I didn't know that... wow. Now I really don't want to celebrate it, haha. :)

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  8. That's exactly how I feel, Stephanie - it should be an every day thing. And awwww, Walter is the cutest little love bug ever! :)

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  9. I'm on a similar page as you. If someone is really special to you, then that should be celebrated EVERY day, not just ONE day. I'm in a happy relationship and have been for over a year, but my boyfriend and I are 8 hours apart, and our situations (job and school) don't allow us to see each other next weekend. I'm mailing him a little something, just as a reminder that I love him, and because I can't be there with him. It's tricky!

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  10. We don't celebrate it, it has become more of a novelty. Kyle will be working anyway so no big deal in our house.

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  11. It seems to me that my husband and I use VDay more as reason to spoil the kids. Haha. I usually go all out on holidays with themed desserts and crafts and such. It's just fun.

    I always make a big dinner too (like Thanksgiving big), and we just celebrate loving one another as a family unit, not necessarily in the romantic sense that VDay is known for.

    I think most of us are very lucky in the sense that our hubbies spoil us and show their undying love in their own ways. Mine is so thoughtful on a daily basis...always looking for ways to make my day easier and such. And he always looks at me like I am magic. :)

    *I'm gonna go hug him now*

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  12. Thanks for joining us, Mia!!
    I'm with you, we should not be reminded to love, but if this is the only day… by all means… love on!


    Valentine's Day at my house has been about the kiddos since we had kiddos. I do not really remember life without the kiddos. I have been know to make heart shaped foods. :)
    We actually brought our first daughter home from the hospital on Valentine's Day!


    I'm glad you have your magic! I am one of the world's most self conscious people, and my husband has a way of letting me know I'm beautiful even when I feel I'm not. I love that your husband showers you with love, compliments, and his special smile. :) ((how you doin'))


    XOXO

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  13. My b/f and I had a spontaneous (bad food at a bad restaurant) dinner on VD a couple of years ago when we were in the "courting" phase, so I think it holds some fun memories for us. But overall, I find it filled with too much pressure for the guys and singletons and that's not a good feeling esp for a holiday. I actually wish it wasn't such a big deal...

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  14. Beautifully said. You capture the essence of love, in contrast to its commercialization on V-day.

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  15. the cardigan you have on in the picture above...i'm wearing it today...as i type! haha! love it! :) happy valentine's day love :)

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  16. Aw, long distance, I feel your pain, girl. Hubby and I were long distance all through college. It was hard, but you're right, those little reminders when you can't be together are super sweet and thoughtful!

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  17. Same here, my hubby will be working! Just another day. :)

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  18. Goodness - desserts, crafts - I wanna come! :) I think Valentine's Day is a great day to spoil the kiddos. Nothing melts my heart more than getting little homemade Valentine's Day cards. So cute! :)


    Aww, glad that your hubby is so helpful and thoughtful. You're right, go give him a big squish and a smooch! :)

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  19. Haha, heyyyyyy, how YOU doin'? You crack me up, girlie. I think it's great that you make the kiddies the focus of Valentine's Day, it's so sweet! I'm all for some heart shaped foods, that's awesome!


    Sweet hubbies are the best, aren't they? I can't imagine going through life without my other half. :)

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  20. Exactly, it's too much pressure for one day! I agree, I don't think it should be such a big deal either. Too commercialized. But then again, I'm sure I'd change my tune if I was a florist or a greeting card company, haha.

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  21. Lol, it's the best, I love that cardigan! :) Happy Valentine's Day to you, too! xo

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  22. I am in the who cares camp. Last year I bought my hubby caramels his favorite candy. I usually don't buy him anything, but spotted them in a store display and decided he needed a treat. Well his 2-week old crown broke off while eating a piece. When his dentist replaced the crown he told him he shouldn't be eating caramels ever - needless to say I will never buy him caramels again.
    We do have tickets to a show on Saturday, but I think it was a coincidence that DH bought them for the 14th.

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  23. Lovely, lovely post Mia :-)

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  24. I pretty much love anything that celebrates love so I love V-Day. I don't think it need to be about what you BUY and it certainly doesn't just include romantic love. It makes me happy.

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  25. I think the worst part of V-Day is everyone EXPECTS you to be doing something. It's as if you don't do anything then you are a loser. Even if you're with someone, society treats you like well your S.O. must not be awesome or he/she would have done miraculous spectacular things for you/with you for V-Day. Um, why? Do you need these things in order to feel loved and appreciated by yours? Because that says more about you than us. It just bugs me. V-Day is a nightmare to go anywhere, even the day before or after - especially if it falls on a weekend. Flowers are okay but I am not a big fan of symbols for my love dying in a week. And they are crazy expensive. And I feel like if you are not showing your partner you love them all the time, what is the point? I am much more impressed with spontaneous gestures of love and romance than I am by someone telling my bf to do it for me.

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  26. Oh no! No good deed goes unpunished, right? haha. Well hope you guys had fun at the show! :)

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  27. I think that's great - that Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about what you buy. I think people get so caught up in the presents that they forget about everything else!

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  28. Yessss! Yes to all of this, Becca. It's exactly how I feel. Valentine's Day was just another day in our house. I'm so with you - spontaneous gestures are the best. They come from the heart and mean so much more than a date on the calendar. :)

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