Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Write or Die Wednesdays: The truth lies in your heart


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This week's prompt is: What do you think about honesty? Do you think little white lies are OK/necessary? Or do you believe in being honest to a fault?


Happy writing!

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I'm a people-pleaser. I always have been. I try to avoid hurting other people's feelings at all costs. So total honesty, the 100% full truth, all the time, is not something that I am capable of giving. I'm not saying that I am a liar. Instead of lying, I just don't say what I think. The lie of omission and all that.

Is it necessary to tell someone in an elevator that they smell bad, even if you'll share the same space for less than 2 minutes? Should you tell your friend that you hate her significant other, even if it will damage your friendship beyond repair? To me, it's not worth it. Hurting people in the name of honesty is cruel to me.

But that's not to say we should go around lying all the time. Not for the big things, never for when it truly counts, not with those whom we love with all our hearts, and especially not to ourselves. To thy own self be true, and all that jazz.


I try to teach my boys not to lie, that they can tell me anything, that they won't get in trouble if they just tell the truth. That lying is dishonest, and people will no longer trust them if they always lie - just like the boy who cried Wolf. But then I find myself at their birthday parties reminding them not to say that they don't like a particular gift. Why? Because I don't want them to be ungrateful, of course, but also because it's unkind to hurt the feelings of the gift-giver. But right there I am contradicting myself. So which is the right answer? What is the right thing to do?

We are human beings. We have complex emotions and thoughts and relationships. Do I want my boys to grow up telling their teacher she is ugly? Or telling their boss he is an incompetent prick? Honesty can come with a high price in certain situations. So how do we navigate those paths? How do we say that honesty is the best policy, but sometimes it's not, and you better know the difference?

I'm not sure I have an answer. I think it's a gray area for me. Striking that fine balance between being true and being kind can be difficult, for sure. But I find that my conscience is clear. I know my heart and my intentions.   

How do you feel about truth and dishonesty? I am so interested in your thoughts! Come join us and link up if you're so inclined. Or leave a comment below.



   

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7 comments:

  1. Mia, haha! I love you. I categorized lies into only 2 categories (white/benign and big/bad), but you just made me realize that there is a 3rd category: ass-saving/not getting fired or kicked out of school.

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  2. 'I know my heart and my intentions'- perfect. We're all capable of lying, but only we know the reasons why we do things. We're all on the same page so far with the lying question- big lies= bad, white lies= being kind. I love Write or Die Wednesdays :-) X

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  3. You have a good heart Mia! One of the reasons I love you! And I'm not lying about that!
    You definitely have to learn the fine art of not rocking the boat in life to maintain relationships.

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  4. You're right, this was a really tough prompt (which is why I'm late to the linkup) but I liked it. I love your perspective too. It's such a gray area with lying.

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  5. These writing prompts are awesome! I'm so glad I found this spot. Look forward to seeing what you will have us pondering next week!

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  6. I agree there is definitely gray area when it comes to fibbing. This post made me think about that movie Liar Liar with Jim Carrey, could you imagine not being able to hold your tongue?
    I am such a people-pleaser….
    XOXO

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  7. Good question. I think I will avoid it...Hahhahaa. Actually, I think I have to sleep on it because I'm not sure how I feel about it. Honestly! For me, it's a cultural struggle. Lying is considered okay in Thailand!

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