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Last week, we talked about regrets and it was our biggest link up to date! Come join us and share your thoughts. We can't wait to hear what you have to say!
I'm a people-pleaser. I always have been. I try to avoid hurting other people's feelings at all costs. So total honesty, the 100% full truth, all the time, is not something that I am capable of giving. I'm not saying that I am a liar. Instead of lying, I just don't say what I think. The lie of omission and all that.
Is it necessary to tell someone in an elevator that they smell bad, even if you'll share the same space for less than 2 minutes? Should you tell your friend that you hate her significant other, even if it will damage your friendship beyond repair? To me, it's not worth it. Hurting people in the name of honesty is cruel to me.
But that's not to say we should go around lying all the time. Not for the big things, never for when it truly counts, not with those whom we love with all our hearts, and especially not to ourselves. To thy own self be true, and all that jazz.
I try to teach my boys not to lie, that they can tell me anything, that they won't get in trouble if they just tell the truth. That lying is dishonest, and people will no longer trust them if they always lie - just like the boy who cried Wolf. But then I find myself at their birthday parties reminding them not to say that they don't like a particular gift. Why? Because I don't want them to be ungrateful, of course, but also because it's unkind to hurt the feelings of the gift-giver. But right there I am contradicting myself. So which is the right answer? What is the right thing to do?
We are human beings. We have complex emotions and thoughts and relationships. Do I want my boys to grow up telling their teacher she is ugly? Or telling their boss he is an incompetent prick? Honesty can come with a high price in certain situations. So how do we navigate those paths? How do we say that honesty is the best policy, but sometimes it's not, and you better know the difference?
I'm not sure I have an answer. I think it's a gray area for me. Striking that fine balance between being true and being kind can be difficult, for sure. But I find that my conscience is clear. I know my heart and my intentions.
How do you feel about truth and dishonesty? I am so interested in your thoughts! Come join us and link up if you're so inclined. Or leave a comment below.
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