She tries different tactics to make new friends - mutual acquaintances, speed friend-ing (like speed dating), taking out an ad, meeting people at restaurants, the gym, book club, etc. Sometimes she connects with the person, sometimes she doesn't. But what was most interesting to me was how difficult it was for her to truly make a friend. Making friends when we were kids was so easy. If our parents were friends, or we were in the same class or rode the same bus - boom, instant friendship. But making friends as an adult is really hard.
Now, I'm not talking about acquaintances - those people that you are friendly with and may hang out with occasionally. But I'm talking about a true friend, a best friend for life or BFFL (pronounced "biffle") as I like to say. Someone you can tell your deepest, darkest secrets to and know that they won't breathe a word to another soul, and they certainly won't judge you. Someone you can call any time, just to chat, and not need a particular reason for the call. Someone who will come over and hang out with you and watch stupid tv. Someone who lets you cry on their shoulder or rant and rave when you're angry. Someone who truly cares about you and has your best interest at heart. Where do you find someone like that when high school and college are
Some people say that their spouse is their best friend and I agree - to a certain extent. Your spouse is the person you are spending the rest of your life with and knows you better than anyone else. But too much dependency on your spouse can be unhealthy, as I know from personal experience. You need that girl time to talk about girl stuff. Profound, I know.
So, what's your take on this? Do you find that it's harder to make real BFFs as an adult? Share what you think, I'd love to hear about it.