Monday, August 25, 2014

5 Reasons Why Solitude Is (Occasionally) Necessary

People tend to think that solitude is a bad thing. They'll say, "I can't stand the quiet" or "I like being around people". As a self-proclaimed anti-socialist (is that a word?), I personally love solitude. But I know that it has its time and place. It doesn't have to have a negative connotation because everybody needs alone time once in awhile. So, without further ado, here are 5 reasons why I think solitude is occasionally necessary. 

1.)  You can hear yourself think. 

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives - jobs, spouses, kids, tv, friends - we are constantly bombarded with noise or things that we have to do. We're constantly on the move, going to work, heading to the gym, taking our kids to various places, etc. In the midst of all this chaos, we often forget to give ourselves time to just let our minds wander. Or we're simply too exhausted. When I have a few moments to myself, sometimes I sit and listen to music and just daydream. It's amazing how much better I feel when I give my brain permission to just veg out for a few minutes.  

2.)  You can get a lot of things accomplished. 

What's that saying - cleaning your house with kids around is like brushing your teeth while eating Oreos. Ha. Sometimes it's just easier to get certain things accomplished when no one else is around. For me, it's food prep, laundry, and cleaning up the kids' toys. I'm rarely ever home alone, though, so I make sure to savor it when it does happen. 

3.)  You can do things that only you enjoy. 

Binge watch your guilty pleasure shows (helloooooo Pretty Little Liars)? Check. Have a solo dance party to raunchy hip hop songs? Double check. Read for hours on end without  anybody interrupting you? Hell yeah. Take some time do whatever your heart desires! 

4.)  You can be yourself. 

Being an adult sometimes means having to keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Whether you're dealing with a difficult customer, or chatting with an opinionated friend, I think we've all had times where we just bit our tongue and smiled and nodded. It's just easier sometimes. But when I'm alone? Oh my goodness. What a relief it is to just think whatever I want and say whatever I want without any audience and without any judgments. I can just be me, and not have to fake it and smile and be "on." Let your bitchy-resting-face-flag fly!

And you can also truly just be yourself. Whoever you are when you're not in your profession, when you're not being a wife, or a mom, or a friend. Just you. We all need to reclaim our own identity every once in a while. It doesn't mean that we don't care about others, but simply that we need time to nurture ourselves occasionally. 

5.)  You will appreciate your loved ones that much more when you are around them. 

So, you've had your solitude. Now what? Well, now you can be with the ones you love and appreciate them and love them that much more because you've had some time to love yourself.

What do you do when you have some time to yourself?  



  1. Preach. Only Child Syndrome (which I'm pretty sure I made up) comes with the need for lots of alone time.

  2. I agree with these so much! I enjoy my alone time.

    1. Same here, Jen! We just need it every once in a while! :)

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