Thursday, June 13, 2013

Just a little reminder

Hello lovers!  Sorry I haven't been around much.  You may have seen this post about my step-dad being ill and in the hospital.  He passed away Monday night, so I've been helping my mom make arrangements. 


I'm really not good at emotional situations, it's hard for me to comfort other people, I really just don't know what to say or do.  It doesn't mean that I don't care, because I truly do. But people often perceive me as being indifferent or cold.  I think my brain just can't process it, so it shuts down and doesn't really let anything in, so I usually end up feeling numb. But I just tried to be there and let my mom cry and listen when she needed to talk.   


The hardest part was when we were at the funeral home and I stepped out of the viewing room to give my mom some privacy.  I could just hear this painful anguished cry through the closed doors. That was really, really hard.


But I know she takes comfort in the fact that he is at peace now and no longer in pain.  


So anyway, here's a little reminder to gather close the ones you love and give them that extra kiss and hug and let them know just how much you love them.  xo




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17 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness, I am so very sorry! Hugs!

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  2. I'm so sorry for everything Mia! Please let me know if you need anything. I know your Mom is so happy to have you by her side.
    XOXO

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  3. So sorry. Many hugs and prayers are being sent your way.

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  4. Oh Mia I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your family right now. xoxo.

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  5. So sorry Mia. Love and hugs to you and your family.

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  6. I'm so sorry Mia. My thoughts are with you, your Mom and the rest of your family and loved ones.

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  7. Im sorry about your loss. I lost my dad when I was 19. It's never easy to lose someone you care about. Thinking of you!

    Kristin
    www.hopelesslyeverafter.blogspot.com

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  8. I'm sorry for your loss. I know everyone grieves differently and there is no right or wrong way to deal or feel with it all. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time especially your mom.

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  9. I'm so sorry Mia, my thoughts and prayers are with your whole family, especially your mom. I'm sure your presence is a comfort to her, just keep being there (as I know you will be). xo

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  10. I am terribly sorry Mia for your loss. Words cant express just how sorry I am. I will definitely be thinking of you and your family and praying for comfort and peace for you all. Esp for your Mom. I know this has to be a hard time like all times like these are. But if you need prayers I will be gladly pray for you thru email if you want.

    Just be there for your mom and the rest of your family. and be strong for them.


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  11. Mia, the best thing you can do is be there for your mother. You don't have to talk as she needs to know you are there and she may need you to just listen. Everyone grieves differently. Your mother may need you to help her with things around the house just to keep her going until she can think again. The only thing you really need to say to a grieving person is "I'm so sorry for your loss or just "I am sorry". Your mother may be in type of shock for awhile. There are different stages of grief and people can go through them at different times and not in any order. You can check about it online or get a book so you can recognize these stages. I am glad you can be there for your mother. This is what she needs most right now.

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  12. So very sorry to hear this news! Thinking of you and your mom!

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  13. Mia, I am so very sorry to hear about your step dad...I lost my biological father when I was 13 and it took me many years to really come to grips with it. I am here if you need a (bloggy) hug...and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    xo Dinah @ sunshine super glam

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  14. Oh Mia, I'm so very sorry to hear about your step dad :( It's hard enough to have a family member pass, but then the emotional situation of comforting the rest of the family, especially your mom, is very hard as well. I can't imagine how your mom must feel. Please, take all the time you need to be with your family...your true bloggy friends will be here to support you and we'll be here when you come back, too :) Hugs.

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  15. This is the hardest thing. I'm so sorry your family is going through this, I know all too well what a horrible experience this can be. My thoughts are with you and your family, Mia.

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